Pearls of Wisdom

I came across this reading in Rachel Naomi Remen’s beautiful book My Grandfather’s Blessings and it felt so apt for this time. Can we treat coronavirus as a grain of sand? This experience will inevitably have a lasting effect on every one of us. Perhaps it will teach us about what we choose to value in life.

Some of the oldest and most delightful written words in the English language are the collective nouns dating from medieval times used to describe groups of birds and beasts.  Many of these go back five hundred years or more, and lists of them appeared as early as 1440 in some of the first books printed in English. 

These words frequently offer an insight into the nature of the animals or birds they describe.  Sometimes this is factual and sometimes poetic.  Occasionally it is profound:  a pride of lions, a party of jays, an ostentation of peacocks, an exaltation of larks, a gaggle of geese, a charm of finches, a bed of clams, a school of fish, a cloud of gnats, and a parliament of owls are some examples.  Over time, these sorts of words have been extended to other things as well.  One of my favorites is pearls of wisdom.

An oyster is soft, tender, and vulnerable.  Without the sanctuary of its shell it could not survive.  But oysters must open their shells in order to ‘breathe’ water.  Sometimes while an oyster is breathing, a grain of sand will enter its shell and become a part of its life from then on.

Such grains of sand cause pain, but an oyster does not alter its soft nature because of this.  It does not become hard and leathery in order not to feel.  It continues to entrust itself to the ocean, to open and breathe in order to live.  But it does respond.

Slowly and patiently, the oyster wraps the grain of sand in thin translucent layers until, over time, it has created something of great value in the place where it was most vulnerable to its pain.  A pearl might be thought of as an oyster’s response to its suffering.  Not every oyster can do this.  Oysters that do are far more valuable to people than oysters that do not.

Sand is a way of life for an oyster.  If you are soft and tender and must live on the sandy floor of the ocean, making pearls becomes a necessity if you are to live well.

Disappointment and loss are a part of every life. Many times we can put such things behind us and get on with the rest of our lives. But not everything is amenable to this approach. Some things are too big or too deep to do this, and we will have to leave important parts of ourselves behind if we treat them in this way. These are the places where wisdom begins to grow in us. It begins with suffering that we do not avoid or rationalize or put behind us. It starts with the realization that our loss, whatever it is, has become a part of us and has altered our lives so profoundly that we cannot go back to the way it was before.

Something in us can transform such suffering into wisdom. The process of turning pain into wisdom often looks like a sorting process. First we experience everything.  Then one by one we let things go, the anger, the blame, the sense of injustice, and finally even the pain itself, until all we have left is a deeper sense of the value of life and a greater capacity to live it.

Recommended yoga reading

April and I have compiled this list of books we’d recommend. If you have any other suggestions of books you think we might like, please let us know.

Anatomy & Movement

Crickmay & Tufnell: Body, Space, Image

Hartley, Wisdom of the Body Moving

Keil, Functional Anatomy of Yoga

Long, Key Muscles of Yoga

Long, Key Poses of Yoga

Olsen, BodyStories: A Guide to Experiential Anatomy

Schultz & Feitis, The Endless Web: Fascial Anatomy and Physical Reality



Farhi, The Breathing Book

Vessantara, The Breath


Ashtanga Yoga

Maehle, Ashtanga Yoga – The Intermediate Series

Scott, Ashtanga Yoga

Swenson, Ashtanga Yoga – The Practice Manual


Yin Yoga

Blair, Brightening Our Inner Skies (publication forthcoming)

Clark, The Complete Guide to Yin Yoga

Grilley, Yin Yoga: Outline of a Quiet Practice

Lasater, Relax & Renew

Powers, Insight Yoga



Bell, Mindful Yoga, Mindful Life

Brach, Radical Acceptance

Lasater, Living your Yoga: Finding the Spiritual in Everyday Life

Levine, A Year to Live: How to Live this Year as if it were Your Last

Mackenzie, Cave in the Snow

Rinpoche, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying

Roach, The Tibetan Book of Yoga

Rosenberg, Living in the Light of Death: On the Art of Being Truly Alive

Rosenberg, Breath by Breath: The Liberating Practice of Insight Meditation

Toomey, The Saffron Road: A Journey with Buddha’s Daughters



See my earlier post of CD suggestions



Pollack, Stretch

Lorr, Hell-bent

Edge, Yoga School Dropout

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